A man $X$ has 7 friends, 4 of them are ladies and 3 are men. His wife $Y$ also has 7 friends, 3 of them are ladies and 4 are men. Assume $X$ and $Y$ have no common friends. Then the total number of ways in which $X$ and $Y$ together can throw a party inviting 3 ladies and 3 men, so that 3 friends of each of $X$ and $Y$ are in this party is:\\
(1) 485\\
(2) 468\\
(3) 469\\
(4) 484